“And isn’t it ironic, don’t you think?” - Ironic by Alanis Morrissette

Alanis had it right - it is ironic. Relationships, that is. Especially the past and the present.

The relationship I was in during my early twenties was good, but after the breakup 5 years ago, he began to show his true colors which made me wonder if they were always there. Was I too blind to actually see them?

Early this year, I started to see someone new. Someone who listens intently, is a true gentleman and makes me feel like I’m his number one pick. Doesn’t seem like a lot to ask for, right? If I told you it took a few years to find him, would you believe me? 

After our first date, I left town for a long weekend and thought I would never hear from him again. Boy, was I wrong! 

My first night at the hotel was spent at the bar, and not even 2 sips into my glass of wine, I received 2 text messages back to back.

The first text message was, “Where you at?”

After no response, you best believe I received another text and a few direct messages on Instagram with the same question all within 15 minutes of each other.

The second text message read, “Hey beautiful! How was your day? What have you visited so far?”

I think you can figure out who sent which message.

My thought process was the following:

I know that you didn’t know I’m on vacation (probably saw my Instagram story to find out), but why do you care where I am? And let’s use proper grammar, please. Eye roll.

Wow, that’s so nice that you actually care what I’ve been seeing on vacation. I was afraid I wouldn’t hear from you again. (the next day he gave me recommendations for restaurants, rooftops, and other activities)

It’s funny that the person who kept trying to wedge his way into my life was so careless and thoughtless with a text message, while the person I had only met once was the complete opposite. He wanted me to have a great vacation at some of his favorite places. Such a kind gesture that only took a second longer to send, but left a much better (and bigger) impression.

“Never cry for someone who hurts you, just smile and say: Thanks for giving me a chance to find someone better than you.” -Unknown